Politcal post, feel free to skip...
So here we are, the dawning of a new, frightening era. Donald J Trump is the president elect.
I am a social democrat. I want for a better world. I lean heavily towards equal rights - whatever that cost might be to me, an average white man.
I am married to a wonderful, smart, strong feminist who keeps me in check when I'm slipping into the bad average white male habits that have been ingrained in us for so long.
I believe that the checks and balances of the US work, and that there is a place at the table for capitalism, and the GOP - as long as we maintain social responsibilities.
I also am not saying this to shout into the echo chamber, or to blame or dream of what is and what might have been.
The DNC needs to change. They have been awful at running campaigns forever. Any talk of Howard Dean becoming chair is going back. He crested on the wave of an incredible candidate, Barrack Obama, but his 50 state plan was there for Hillary Clinton before it was there for Obama.
When the candidates for the nominees for the DNC were announced I said to a friend, and I hated myself for saying it, this isn't the time for a woman.
I didn't say it because sexism or bigotry or because I wanted to return to the 50s and make America great again! I said it because I wanted the GOP to change. I wanted them to have a period of reflection and realization that they needed to clear house of the hate and the tea partiers and the fear and the misery. I wanted them to spend a moment to think about returning to their core values of fiscal responsibility and smart small governance, rather than obstructionist idiologizing.
I didn't say it because I wanted to besmirch the talents of Hillary Clinton, or because "she's unlikable" or because "Bernie or bust!". I said it because I felt that huge numbers of average white Americans would panic. Because they'd spent 8 years feeling like the change to their way of life wasn't a move towards a different age that would possibly be better for the majority, but because they felt it was an attack on their way of life that they wanted to preserve. 8 years of them convinced that minorities were getting a pass to go ahead of them in the line.
Put a woman in front of them, and many of them would see it as a move to give the pass to women ahead of them. They don't see it as equality, they see it as a competition, a pyramid with only a little room at the top. That top has been dominated by white males and they felt that they too could make it as long as a white male was still there.
I hated myself for saying it and even thinking it, but I said that even an average white man would be a better move - not because I believe that average white men are better. This was back when I was convinced that Jeb! would be their guy.
Donald J Trump won because a bunch of white average Americans don't want to go through the difficulty of change, and because a bunch of wealthy white Americans didn't want to listen to them, but wanted to party with rock stars and drink fancy coffee.
Now we have a man in office who is at no level fit to be there. He is a grotesque, a creature of no substance and little moral fibre.
He brings with him some of the most hateful creatures in politics.
He brings with him a crowd of hate that now feel validated in being public and loud about their hate.
If you voted for him for economic reasons, you need to be the first line that stands up to that wave of hate. Not us. We didn't want him. You did.
As for the DNC. Stop the in fighting. Stop the blaming. Realize that changes need to happen. Get involved in the bloody midterms, and tracking which fights are close, which senate seats might be open or up for grabs or who needs help.
Don't just sit back. It's going to be ugly.